The Two Kinds of Other Women

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My inspiration for writing my romance novel,  The Deception began a few years ago when I happened upon a psychic’s blog. She was discussing the questions her clients asked the most often. One question was, “When will he leave his wife for me?”

Needless to say, her post had a lot of comments, and I noticed a trend. Everyone believed the other woman knew he was married, and that she was lying if she said she didn’t know.

Being single for most of my adult life, I’ve noticed there are actually two kinds of other women out there. One is the aforementioned mistress. The other is a good woman who’s been deceived.

The good woman who’s been deceived

Typically, this is a woman looking for meaningful long-term relationship, or marriage. She then happens to meet a seemingly nice man. He appears to be single. He’s not wearing a wedding ring. He’s never mentioned a wife or girlfriend. In some cases, a mutual friend thought he was single. But then, after she’s become seriously involved, she’ll find out he’s married.

When that happens, she’ll feel shocked and betrayed. However, she gets a double whammy. Everyone will side with the wife. And, just like in that psychic’s blog, everyone will condemn her for being the other woman. And if she says she didn’t know he was married, (and she honestly didn’t know), they’ll then accuse her of lying. So where is the condemnation for the man? After all, he’s the one who lied to her. And he’s the one who duped her into thinking he was single.

This can be extremely devastating for her, and it can do untold damage to her sense of self worth. She’s being wrongfully accused of setting out to intentionally hurt the wife when she honestly didn’t know there was a wife. This can leave her with some serious trust issues.

The Deception is the story of a good woman who, unknowingly, becomes involved with a married man. A mutual friend has told her he’s single. And he’s led her to believe that he’s single. It doesn’t take long, however, for her to realize that thing aren’t adding up. She ends the relationship, but by then the damage has been done. As a result, she’s left to deal with the unintended consequences.

While my story may be fiction, real-life versions of it happen everyday. The point I’m making with this book is to not to judge others too harshly. None of us are mind readers. And there really are people out there who lie and deceive others.

Marina Martindale